The world want tell you Proverbs 27:6 The wounds from a lover are worth it: kisses from an enemy do you in
I consider my wife as my Lover, the world says if they don’t comply get a divorce. The Devil will continually attack your mind and tell you just how bad your spouse is over and over until it turns into hate. We have all heard forgive 7X70, here is another example of the right thing to do.
The fact is if you are in a long term relationship you are going to hurt each other because we are human. I am not talking about physical abuse, I firmly believe if you are being physically abused you need to remove yourself from that situation. The Bible is full of answers for real life situations if you will just read it for yourself.